Civil Discourse: Agree to Disagree


What is happening to us that we cannot even share our opinions without it becoming a tsunami of attacks by people who disagree?

Big deal…you have a different opinion! So do I, and millions of other human beings throughout the country. We are individuals, simply stated, one person, one mind, heart, spirit, and soul. Yet because of our training, upbringing, and experiences in life we have come up with a myriad of opinions. For some who have held onto those long-buried and believable opinions, they can be drastically changed by someone they either fear or respect in a mere matter of seconds. Opinions are simply and sadly adjustable. And then there are many who have no clue why they have the opinion they do and here we go.

We must remember that an opinion is simply reflective. It does not necessarily mean it is true. If you say, 1+1=2, to the majority you would be correct. But in intellectual circles, someone may freak out and say…”1+1 does not equal 2. It simply equals two sets of one that add up to 2.”

Crazy! But in this world both are right. And because there are two options there will be disagreements. Now, imagine a country with hundreds of millions of opinions.

Truth is simply something that cannot be changed. It can be disagreed with. It can be yelled at. And we can argue until we are blue in the face. But truth never changes. Opinions do.

When Christopher Columbus thought over and over about the world being flat, he got up the nerve to go to the Queen and say, “Let’s find out.” He sailed the ocean blue and the world was discovered to be round, not flat. As a result, he became a hero. The truth of the matter was that the world was always round, regardless of all the discussions, opinions, and arguments that it was flat. The world didn’t just become inflated for Mr. Columbus to sail around and confuse everyone No matter what the opinion may have been amongst all the people. It was always round.

Stop the madness. If someone disagrees, hear them out, investigate. Don’t allow your emotions to put you in the boxing ring of words. Stop being insecure just because someone differs in opinion. Learn this important de-stressor… it’s okay to agree to disagree.

Educated in the State of Washington, Tom Julian was one of the few chosen to intern with The Washington State Attorney General, Ken Eikenberry...but for reasons unknown, Tom did not pursue a law degree. Instead, Tom went to Hollywood to develop television shows. Fortunately, over the course of a few years, Tom was able to produce two Nationally Syndicated Television shows and then he was blessed to spend close to twenty years working with Fortune 500 companies in the design and manufacture of their product packaging... Apple and Callaway Golf were just a couple of the many. Today he is a full-time writer and producer. When Tom isn't writing or playing golf he loves to think, jot down ideas, buy more flash drives to store the written material and drink coffee with just the correct amount of creme to make the coffee turn a caramel color. You can find out more by going to